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Tis the season

Posted Thursday, December 15, 2011, at 3:46 PM

This is the time of year with all the hustle and bustle of Christmas and the

new year coming up, that I begin thinking over the last year. I think of all

the good, the bad, and the things that didn't make a difference at all. I

think of all the family and friends I lost, and I think of all the new friends I

have made. Then, I think of all the new additions to the family. I also think

about the old friends and family I don't get to see often enough.

My mind wanders as to how I could have made things better for someone, or

if I could have been more friendly or more understanding. Or could I have

said that word just a bit kinder. Did I forget to smile at the person who could

have been having a rough day or going through a very bad time, that just a

smile could have helped, if only momentarily.

Then I start making plans for the new year coming up. Plans to be a better

me or plans to make better use of my time. Plans to take the time to take care

of health issues. So many plans for so many changes. Without exception, each

year I find myself sliding right back into the old mode of the year before.

But, I know that by making myself conscious of the changes I need to make, even

though most go by the wayside, I do accomplish some of them, if only one or two.

The one thing I have always wanted and prayed for is wisdom. Of course, I be-

lieve that wisdom comes with age and the problem there is, no one wants to grow

old. I know I haven't achieved much of a degree of wisdom, but I will never

stop praying and seeking for it.

As I was pondering on these things, from somewhere in my memory bank, I remem-

bered the words "a kinder and gentler nation". I couldn't remember who said these

words so I looked them up. It was one of our past presidents.

I then did a search of the words that are associated with gentler. Some of them are:

kind, patient, tender, soft, soothing, not violent or harsh or rough. Then I went to

the Bible. In Titus it tells me..."To be no brawlers, but gentle." James says.."But

the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle and easy to be en-

treated." Entreated meaning...making it easy for someone to come to me for help

or advice or to ask my forgiveness if they feel they have hurt or offended me.

There is an old saying "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never

hurt me." I have always disagreed with this saying. I know I have said words to

(or about) people that I could never take back, because when they have been said,

they are stuck forever in the mind of the person who had to receive them.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 says: "Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry; for anger resteth in the

bosom of fools." Oh, my goodness! How many times have I been a fool?

I just know that in today's world, as in no other time in history, we are being challanged

on every side and we all need each other. We need to stand beside and behind each

other and give the support that each of us need at different times in our lives. I know

I am a needy person.

So, in making my plans for the new year, my desire is, to not necessarily work harder

at it, but to get it so solidified into my heart and mind that it will become second nature

to me to be a 'kinder and gentler person.'

Merry Christmas to all and thank you so much for your support of Kathleen's Korner.

See ya next year somewhere in a 'korner'.

kdover28@gmail.com - 820-2404 - blog with me at www.dailystatesman.com

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Your column this week is truly heart felt and inspirational. I too will make a vow to try and be a more kind and understanding human. We must remember we have not walked in others shoe's and only our own. Merry Christmas to you and all your loved ones.


-- Posted by Phyllie on Mon, Dec 19, 2011, at 8:02 PM

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Kathleen is a resident of Dexter. She was born in Indiana, but her parents moved their family back to the Dexter area when she was three. Other than three years she and her husband, Collin, lived in St. Charles, Mo. and ten years in Birmingham, Alabama, she has spent her life in Dexter. As you can tell, Kathleen is a people person and believes in giving credit to whom credit is due. Thus, the reason for her hero/heroine column every other week in Kathleen's Korner. As you can tell, she also like to have fun, most of the time at her own expense. Kathleen (Grubbs) is a 1964 graduate of Dexter High School and invites her friends to her "Korner."
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