To tell or not to tell....the truth

It seems the time has come to explain to some of our maleism patrons just how the feminine mind works. Well, now that's a tall order indeed, and no simple task. First, it works just fine, thank you ever so much. The fact that the male mind doesn't work quite as well is not our fault. It just doesn't.

To explain "how" the female mind works would require more space than is allowed here in cyberland, so no need to try. I shall herein, instead, attempt to illustrate an example of how it might work differently than the male's, once again using the weight issue.

I.B. has pointed out that if he asked his wife if he looked fat, he would expect an honest answer and he could deal with it. There lies the first major difference between I.B.'s line of thinking and ours.

If we ask a significant other,"Do you think I'm fat?" and they answer, "Yep, sure do," you can count on a major meltdown from us. You can also NOT count on dinner, conversation, or sex till the next lunar eclipse. It's not ok to be honest about that, even if it's true. This is one of those truisms that men just don't seem to grasp. It always seems to come as a surprise to them that when they answer a question like that honestly (assuming there's a bit of extra poundage lying about), they suffer for it. Will they ever learn? And yet, if they ask us for an honest answer to the same type of question, we can be brutally honest and we expect only thanks for being so. That's because WE understand the male mind enough to know that YOU expect an honest answer. Let us be clear, however, that is not to imply that we wish to hear a "dishonest" response. We just want to hear what we NEED to hear. Even if we know the truthful answer to the question at hand, you see, the fact that yes, we may need to shed a few pounds, has no bearing whatsoever on the question. Understand? Naw… didn't think so. And if the male element DID understand this concept, it would take half the fun out of life as we know it, now wouldn't it?

The above is only one example, but the basic concept may be applied to any number of situations…just remember the difference between "need" and "want." Very important.

A point to remember is this…if we truly "want" the truth, we'll ask a girlfriend. There are no repercussions there when the truth is told. It's just a female thing, not for you to understand.

M o'