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Did he do it?
Posted Tuesday, November 27, 2007, at 1:29 PM<< Previous | Read comments | Respond | Email link | Next >>
I'm sure that by now everyone has heard the story of the missing wife of former police sergeant Drew Peterson. His 23-year-old fourth wife was reported missing Oct. 29 by her family after she failed to show up to a friend's house.
What do you think? Did good ol' Drew kill his fourth wife? I'm, at least right now, leaning toward the yes factor. They have now exhumed the body of Peterson's third wife, who was found dead in a bathtub in 2004. What was then ruled an accidental death is now being called a homicide. Illinois State Police have also said they have identified the person who supposedly helped Peterson load a big, blue barrel -- big enough to fit a body in -- from the couple's bedroom into the back of Peterson's SUV the day after his wife was reported missing. I'm pretty sure that this guy is a murderer. And if he is, I hope that he gets all that is coming to him. But what do you think? Comments Showing comments in chronological order [Show most recent comments first] |
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I saw her picture-pretty young thing.My heart aches for her folks.
Gather round girls,I'll share some advice some really seem to need.
What scares me is that ANYONE would even consider dating a guy twice divorced with the third wife being found dead under "mysterious circumstances",without chatting up the living exes.
I'm sure he conned her like so many men (and women) do-it was them not me,they took advantage of me,I tried to be so good to them,they ran off with other men,blah blah-BUT you are so different,you REALLY love me-blechh,makes me sick.
The real cautionary tale here is we can really investigate people who have been divorced twice or more-the Internet!
At the very least you could talk to the exes,they may biased,but if you hear a common theme-druggie,abuser,cheater,lazy,mean,controlling,etc.-then you have an answer before you invest too much of yourselves in a relationship.What a shame,many a person could be saved with just a phone call or email.
Maybe OJ,Phil Spector,Robert Blake can form their own detective agency along with good old Sergeant Drew and find his wife.
They could call it"The Murdered Women's Mystery Club" or "Looking For Real Killers,Inc."
Angelina, you are SO right!! Some guys must have so darned much charm that all they have to do is look into a girl's eyes - and she throws caution to the wind! Or maybe the guys strike a chord with a certain kind of insecure female.
So sad!
I noticed in teaching high school that the girls so often fall for the "jocks" and completely overlook the bright, sincere, nerdy guys. After a divorce and some real power issues, they look back and think, "Why didn't I choose that Bill Gates-type character??"
However, it's never too late! (Well, unless the guy pulls a trick like all those Petersons.)
By the way, what gives with the name "Peterson"? Wasn't there a Scott Peterson who killed his wife and unborn son???
Maybe a 20 year old beautiful girl should not even think about dating a 50 year old man to begin with. Maybe her father should have attempted to stop that, even though he probably couldn't. What would enter a 20 year olds mind that she would give the time of day to a 50 year old man? Word of advice ladies. Don't do it.
Wow, to see a gentleman comment on such a subject is refreshing. I know us as females do some "man-bashing" at times. But it's true that they aren't all bad. I give my husband a hard time just because he is the kind of person to take it and give it back and it be ok. In my eyes, a good relationship should be based on this. But as far as this Peterson guy...again innocent til proven guilty...but could it be anymore obvious??? guilty...
It really wouldn't be wise for a man to be involved with a lady so many years younger than him either. I am approximately this individuals age and I can tell you that when she would be ready to go partying on Saturday night with her friends I would be ready to turn in for the night.
You're so right, dolphin, I.B. must be the only guy who'll admit that it's not wise for an older guy to even date a younger woman.
However, in my limited cyber experience, that's what most of the older guys are looking for. Even the 60+ guys will limit their search to 45 and under, and some will even try to pull off the under 25 scheme.
It's the eternal search for the Fountain of Youth.
Looking for a younger partner could be interpreted as being bored with the one that he/she has at home. Many people chose to forget the partner at home for someone that is more "exciting", probably because the partner at home is tired of being ignored and gives up on trying to be "exciting". Unfortunately in this day and time it happens all too often, just look at the divorce rates. The "need" for younger and fresher is NOT restricted to just men anymore.
Your above comments reminded me of a true story,about keeping the spouse you have.
My beloved once commented on certain things that I might consider surgically enhancing.It was only for "my own good",so that I could feel 18 (in his mind) again.Teenage years were such a blast you know,I long to repeat them-lol.
I lovingly showed him the pictures of hardbody,tan,6-pack abs,unwrinkled,white perfect teeth,full head of hair BOYS that my 18 year old self would prefer. I further encouraged him if wanted to trade me in for a newer model,this is what the non-billionaires like himself need to look like. A WOMAN like me loves him like he still was 18, and I expect no less from a MAN of his age.
He tells the story much funnier,but I think both of us are happy that we kept the old model,and now it is a real classic!All crappy cars were showroom new once.
That is by far the BEST explanation I have ever heard!!
Also agree about the teenage years! Hahaha! Yes, weren't they a blast! (NOT!)
Thanks goatlady.I just ache for all the teen drama,pimples,folks on my case,not being teachers pet,who will ask me to prom-NOT!
I rejoice that I survived my youth now,I really wish that we could somehow reach these young girls like the young Mrs.Peterson.
What has happened to todays youth? I would have barfed at the thought of one of my friends dad's even kissing me-creepy,dirty old pervert.I would have died a 1000 deaths before I would have anybody think I was so hard up I had to date an old geezer,or even a boy over 21-it would have been a high school scandal.
Somehow we are failing our youth today by not instilling this same sense of age-ism in them.I think this is leading to older females preying on young boys and men with "issues" preying on young girls. Better to be insecure,unsteady,unsure with someone close to your own age,because they are probably feeling the same as you!
Parents,be harsh about your underage kids with anyone old enough to buy booze for them,already has a 401k,and worries about their supplemental policies!
Hahahaha! That's funny - however, I don't recall that my parents ever had to TEACH me not to fall in love with the old geezers! Eewwwww!!! We just KNEW!!! I can't help thinking that maybe these girls may be looking for father figures. Ya think?
I'm at a loss to figure it out... Money? Could it be that the older guys have the money, so that makes them appealing? Are the girls not willing to marry the young guys and then help them make their fortune?
Well no they wouldn't wanna help them make their fortune! That would be too much work! Why not, instead, marry the ones who already have the money so they can spoil right away! Blah! I am 27, and have had a 52 year old man lusting after me for years...YUCK!!! My daddy didn't have to teach me anything. But I will be sure to teach my boys that girls with wrinkles and kids their own age aren't marrying material!
I can't say I was raised to believe different, b/c my mom was 18 years younger than my dad...but I just think it's gross. Me being young and barely having laugh lines is ok. I don't wanna share my lovely youth w/ a man w/ wrinkles in areas I don't even wanna think a/b! I will see those on my hubby as we age TOGETHER!
As with all of us some day you are going to miss catching the opposite sex sneeking a peek at you even though you think it is gross now. Enjoy the fact that you can turn heads now. You won't have to worry about it sooner than you would like to think.
Turning heads is one thing...having a man twice my age tell me, and this is in G-rated terms, that older men make fantastic lovers, and ask if I would like to find out, is something completely different. Especially when he is very aware that he is propositioning a very happily married woman.
Oh I agree 100% mrsdolphin-huge difference.You are right,grow old with the one you were young once with.
It's weird,because I don't see view him as an old geezer,even though he is 6 months older than me-tee hee.But if I was 18 again,he'd make me sick if he asked me out at his age,no matter how nice,rich or charming.
He doesn't have to suck his gut in around me,I listen when he whines about having a colonscopy,and he remembers my natural hair color,but says nothing.
Ain't love grand?
Oh AJ, how lucky you are to have a man that remembers your original hair color. I don't even think I remember my own original hair color (aside from what is recorded on my birth certificate). My hubby is 3 years older than me. And when we first met, I was 15, and I couldn't fathom the two of us being together (especially knowing my dad would press any charge he could think of on him). But when we started talking again when I was 18 and he was 21, things somehow changed. I wouldn't trade him in for a newer (and especially not a classic) model ever.
I love reading all of ur comments here and on the other issues as well. Sometimes I laugh with all of u and sometimes I cry with u.
I totally agree that a young woman of that age had no business with a man of his age and marriage experience. I believe the "innocent until proven guilty" thing but I have to confess... as soon as I saw it on the tv I judged him "GUILTY" as sin.....
Ladies keep ur ole beat up model T's. U won't ever get another like em. Ain't that right I.B.? Angelina, mrsdolphin,I.B., and goatlady... All 4 of u r awesome in my book!!
Well thank you sweet. You're pretty awesome too! Yeah, I ain't trading mine for anything. I got one of the last good ones left!
Well I guess there may be reasons to trade in your Model T, but divorce is a lot better option than murder.
If you do feel you have to have a new model there probably shouldn't be a 30 year age difference. That is probably too much car for a 50 year old man or woman to drive.
I mayself prefer the comfort of my Cadillac over the appearance and speed of a high theft valued Corvette.
If I was the 3rd wife's family,and he got by with my child's death,then I saw him ruining another child's life,I might have kidnapped (not harmed) the new one to cause the 3rd's to be reopened.
Or,if I was #4 and I found out the truth about #3's death,I'd be so deep underground,you wouldn't find me unless you were digging for coal!
You hope for her folks she is still alive,but it seems so unlikely.
I bet the price of the first two divorces is why he "allegedly" chooses murder-he's got his mind on his money and his money on his mind.
U got that right Ang......
I am absolutely shocked at the comments left on this page. Do you all know what the phrase 'victim blaming' means? Instead of talking about what we as women should do to protect ourselves, why aren't we telling men to stop perpetrating violence against us??? I understand that most men in this world are wonderful and would never even think about harming anyone, let alone a woman. BUT, we have to understand that 99% of crimes perpetrated against women are done by men. Stop blaming women for the harm done to them and start educating young boys and men about violence and how wrong it is.
Of course! That's obvious. Everybody knows that we have to educate men not to mistreat women, but it doesn't hurt to educate the women on how to avoid the situation in the first place.
Nobody's saying that a woman deserves to be abused, even if she chose unwisely.
This argument reminds me of the blogger who took us all to task because we were condemning the dogfighters, instead of blogging about child abuse.
...As if focusing on one problem must mean that we don't care about the other issue.
I don't think anyone is blaming the victim for the atrocities. What I think I am trying to advise you is that you should use better reason. If a man abuses you then you should press charges against him. You should leave him immediately. Do not bail him out of jail and drop the charges. Do not allow him to move back in with you. If you watched the news on this case I think you would have noticed that law enforcement had been to the Peterson house 18 times for domestic calls. This is not uncommon. Do not let this happen to you. Help law enforcement and the court system help you and others.
I like how easy it is to type about how simple it is to just leave abusive relationships. There are a lot of class issues that go into why people choose to stay in unhealthy relationships that I think are being ignored. There is an activity called In Her Shoes that I use at my jobs in the Women's Center and Rape Education Office at MIZZOU. The activity puts you in the shoes of an abused woman and takes you along the road she has to travel when she presses charges against her perpetrator, tells her family, etc. It's not as easy as the above blogger made it sound. Do you know that when a woman leaves an abusive situation, her chances of survival drops 70%? And is it so obvious that we are suppose to teach young boys to not hurt girls? Is that why we think young boys are "flirting" when they kick and chase young girls? Is that why we hear people use language that perpetuates a rape supportive culture, and we don't think anything about it? Is that why we watch movies like Mr. and Mrs. Smith that glamorize domestic violence and think it's cool? I'm sure you have your reasons why you think the above comments are helpful, but in my line of work we point this stuff out as very victim blaming and harmful.
So kmctzd,as I understand it,we are terrible men and women for never wanting another young woman to wind up like these young women and being disgusted at this crime,yet you feel the need to berate us.This is a blog and we all(you included) have a right to post.
You need to post on the sites when a person is the victim of a sex crime,because the people you really need to talk down to and try to shame are the ones who post nasty "pro-perp" comments. There is always a group that sticks up for the perp,calls the victims liars,sluts,troublemakers,they were asking for it,and tries to post their personal business on line TO SHAME THE VICTIM AND THEIR FAMILY!
Now when you start shaming sexual assault/domestic violence victims,you keep other victims from coming forward.
Where are YOUR articulate and knowledgeable comments to DEFEND people brave enough report their crimes?
That is the crowd that needs some educating and shame!
I for one DO NOT appreciate your snotty general dismissal of anyone's opinion other than your own-you must be a blast to work with.
However,no matter how offended I personally am by your poor attempts at shaming people who are CLEARLY not the enemy,I firmly support your right to post as your opinion,no matter what. I choose not to acknowledge your presence
or reply,but let's see what you post to those articles,they are all there,waiting for your insight.
I am in no way attempting to degrade or demean any abused person. What I am telling you is that if you have an abusive spouse get out. Abusive spouses will not change. If you stay you will absolutely be abused again. There is probably 100% chance of that.
Wow, these blogs continue to educate us! I've been browsing back through all our previous comments (again) to see which of them "perpetuates a rape supportive culture," as kmctzd indicated.
I would never imagine that I had a "rape supportive" attitude. I thought our society had come such a long way, since the days when the women were put on trial and their reputations ruined, if they filed rape charges - esp. against their husbands.
So, kmctzd, are you saying that we still have a long way to go?
Yes, I personally think we do have a long way to go. I don't think any of your comments perpetuate a rape supportive culture. I was responding to a comment left by goat lady that said it's obvious to teach men not to hurt women. I disagree and I was explaining why. You have to READ the post before you reply. I also understand what I.B. Le Truth is saying about getting out of abusive situations, I was simply explaining that it's not as easy as it sounds. You may already be very aware of that, but it did not sound like it in the post. And no, AG, you do not support my right to post, unless your support is shown by calling my comments snotty. I don't know your age, but at my age name calling is inappropriate and childish. You don't have to get angry to express your opinions. Anger can be a sign of ignorance. If you simply respond like an adult, you might end up educating people.